A woman needs high self-esteem to live an emotionally and financially rewarding life. If your self-esteem is low (you usually feel unattractive, dumb, or unworthy) you’re more likely to accept any salary and any man that comes your way. If you have poor self-esteem you’ll cling onto a job that underpays you and onto a bad relationship because you believe they are what you deserve .
According to the National Association of Self-Esteem, “Individuals with defensive or low self-esteem… generally lack confidence in themselves, often have doubts about their worth and acceptability, and hence are reluctant to take risks or expose themselves to failure.
It’s important that every woman strive to be the best, healthiest version of herself.
It’s normal to have some insecurities, however you can take steps to improve your feelings about yourself and your capabilities. By increasing your self-esteem you’ll set a higher standard for how you allow yourself to be treated by friends & romantic partners. You’ll also realize that you deserve to earn a salary that give you the ability to comfortably meet your expenses. You will then take steps to raise your income by negotiating with your current employer or by finding a new one.
5 STEPS TO BOOSTING YOUR SELF-ESTEEM AND YOUR INCOME
1. Make a list of your past successes. This list doesn’t necessarily have to consist of major achievements like climbing Mt. Kilimanjaro. It can include your “minor victories” such as learning to cook, graduating from college, receiving an award or promotion, or completing a CPR course. Read this list often to reinforce that idea that you can succeed.
2. Associate with positive, supportive people. Release or severely cut back on people who constantly put you down or your ideas about improving your life. You want cheerleaders in your corner— people who accept you as-is yet encourage you to grow emotionally, spiritually and financially.
3. Stop putting yourself down. You can’t develop high self-esteem if you continue to tell yourself that you’re not shit. Counter negative thoughts about yourself and your abilities with positive thoughts about who you are and what you’ve done. You can also repeat affirmations to reprogram your thinking. Affirmations are statements such as “I like and accept myself just the way I am”, “I am somebody, I love myself, I believe in myself”. When say the affirmation, allow yourself to REALLY feel the truth and positivity of the statement.
4. Make a list of your positive qualities. Write down at least 10 of your positive qualities. Are you honest, helpful, caring, resourceful or funny? Review this list often. Most women dwell on their flaws and shortcomings. Start focusing on your positive traits and you’ll have more confidence to achieve your life and income goals.
5. Set aside at least 15 minutes each day for personal development. Meditate, pray, journal, listen to inspirational music or read a motivational book to set the tone of your day. Setting the intention that your daily interactions and experiences will benefit you is a powerful, life-changing strategy.
Also of Interest:
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